If you build it they will come. This has been the driving philosophy behind the home we have created here on the wild coast of Maine. Here is its story!
Starting the Real Work
This is where things get messy. Really messy.
I am grateful that so many of you were interested in the first part of our house story last week!
If you missed it, you can read Part I here!
Today, welcome to Part II! This is where things get messy. Really messy.
Way worse than the dead mice in the cottage sink when I first toured the property.
Probably worse than the giant ant nest in the walls of the original guest cottage, though I wasn’t actually here for that….
So let’s get to it!
Maine is Calling
Every time I visited, I would stand in the frigid little cottage…dreaming of summer days.
My previous post ended with the renovation of the guest cottage.
I visited Maine a couple times during the winter of 2017 to check on construction and make decisions about bathroom and kitchen finishes. I stayed in a hotel because the cottage was closed up for the winter.
But every time I visited, I would stand in the frigid little cottage, looking out the windows at the icy view and dreaming of summer days — the low rumble of lobster boats in the morning, bright sunshine on blue water, cotton candy sunsets, surprise fireworks across the cove, white sails gliding by on the horizon, seagulls soaring in cloudless skies.
I didn’t have a concrete plan when we bought the property, but I was beginning to develop one.
Time to Move On
On Friday September 1st, 2017, I bid a very final farewell to the only job I ever had.
I worked my entire career for a federal agency. It was interesting, important, serious work. And I was fortunate to be able to work part time for many years while I raised our three kids.
Things were changing at work and in Washington, though, and, with Maine calling me, I began to think it was time for me to move on.
So I started to look into retirement. Since I started work right out of college, I was eligible to retire at a relatively young age. There would still be plenty of time left for my “second run”, as my husband calls it.
On Friday September 1st, 2017, I bid a very final farewell to the only job I ever had. Due to the nature of my work, there is no going back for a visit.
That weekend my daughter Zoë threw me a surprise retirement party. And boy was it a surprise! I had absolutely no inkling anything was afoot. My entire family and many friends celebrated my transition from one phase of life into the next.
There was a framed U.S. flag, a gift from my employer for my years of service, to honor my past.
And a “Molly in Maine” banner my daughter ordered, representing the future. (Though I did not realize at the time how significant that moniker would become…)
The First Step
This was a huge project — the physical manifestation of my dream.
By the summer of 2017 the renovation of the guest cottage was wrapping up and I was sliding gradually into retirement. It was time to turn my attention to the main house.
This was a huge project — the physical manifestation of my dream. It wasn’t something that my builder and I could design on our own this time.
When we added on to our Maryland house, we used an architect that we found by knocking on the door of a house with an addition I had admired.
I ended up doing the same thing here in Maine, but with an added bonus! The couple whose door I knocked on not only gave me a referral for the firm which designed my dream house, but they have become some of my closest friends up here!
From Vision to Concrete Plan
All this is to say that a lot of thought and intention went into the design of the house.
I love the classic but clean lines of my friends’ home. It is a new build, but from the outside it looks as if it has always been there. Inside, the design is open, but not too big, with windows framing the beautiful harbor views.
I wanted our home here to be a current twist on a classic Maine coastal cottage — the kind of home that has been passed down through the generations. But with a more open floor plan, big windows, and new plumbing! I didn’t want anything too big or too fancy. Simple finishes such as tongue and groove paneling, bead board, wood beams, stone and pine floors. And we had to have a big stone fireplace in the center of the home. Outside, natural cedar shingles, of course!
Silverio Architect + Design of Lincolnville, ME delivered all that, and more! The new house settles naturally into the landscape. Deep overhanging eaves, dormer rooflines, craftsman-style pillars, and a mix of casement and 6-over-1 windows speak the vernacular of traditional New England coastal architecture.
A large wrap-around deck is covered by the eaves over the seating area on one side of the house and open on the other where the outdoor dining table is. French doors from both the living and dining areas create indoor-outdoor flow and allow for easy access to the waterfront.
All this is to say that a lot of thought and intention went into the design of the house.
Now, it was time to get started with construction!
Construction Begins
Where once our tidy little cottage stood, there was now an enormous dirt pit surrounded by more dirt.
But first, zoning and permits…
The oceanfront location of our home means we must conform to certain zoning setback requirements. Most significantly, the house must be located at least 75 ft from the shoreline. It turned out the original cottage stood partially within the setback zone, so our construction plans immediately changed from a major renovation/expansion to a complete new build, .
It meant we needed special permits from the town. Boo!
It also meant we could have a basement. Yay!
Construction began in December 2017. The original cottage was demolished. (That didn’t take much.) Then an enormous hole was dug for the foundation and basement. That was when things started to get really messy….
My first visit to the now construction site in December was quite a shocker! Where once our tidy little cottage stood, there was now an enormous dirt pit surrounded by more dirt. Did I mention there was dirt?? That dirt would remain for a good 8 months after we moved into the house.
Steady Progress
Construction progressed steadily through the winter and into the spring.
Construction progressed steadily through the winter and into the spring. It was amazing to watch the dirt pit gradually turn into a house! I wonder how many pieces of wood were pieced together for the framing! The build team worked tirelessly through the worst of Maine weather. But oh, on those beautiful days, they sure had a great view!
Meanwhile, I was busy picking out the hard finishes. As with the guest cottage, I made all the interior design decisions myself. I did work with some great local businesses who helped me narrow down the choices and execute my vision.
Crestwood Kitchens : kitchen design
Fogg Lighting: light fixtures throughout
Matt Berta Cabinetry: primary bathroom cabinets
Distinctive Tile and Design: tile throughout
This was the fun part! I enjoyed picking out every little detail, down to the doorknobs!
If there is interest, I could do additional posts on specific rooms or finishes. Let me know if you would like to see something like this!
Construction Ends
I greeted everyone when I picked them up at the airport “Welcome home!”
By the time summer 2018 rolled around, the house was really coming together! It was exciting to watch what I had only seen in my mind’s eye become a reality.
I had been living in the guest cottage with Maddie and Cisco and our cats, Izzie and Tuck since May, when our house in Maryland sold. As delightful as the cottage is, it was getting a little tight with the five of us in just 450 square feet!
So, as parts of the house neared completion, we started hanging out there a bit. We ordered our refrigerator and stuck it in the unfinished kitchen space. When friends visited, I moved beds into the guest rooms and they showered in the guest cottage. In August the kids all came. By then we had most of a working kitchen and the downstairs bathroom.
The house wasn’t even finished and we were already making memories here.
Finally in October the house was ready enough for me to make the move down the driveway. We celebrated Thanksgiving and Christmas here that year. Before everyone arrived at Thanksgiving, I had the stained glass insert, which welcomed us home in Maryland for so many years, installed in the front door I had custom made to fit it here.
Never mind that there were temporary wooden steps to that door and a wooden ramp to the mudroom. There was no landscaping or real driveway. The house was an island in a sea of dirt and construction debris.
But still, I greeted everyone when I picked them up at the airport “Welcome home!”
Lessons Learned
Building a home was a huge privilege, but is was also one of the most stressful things I have ever done.
Have you ever been through the construction of a new home??
It is certainly a huge privilege and an incredible opportunity. And one of the most creatively fulfilling things I have ever done.
But it was also one of the most stressful. And our construction went relatively smoothly!
We had our share of wins and losses. The biggest win was when locally quarried granite cobblestone was found during initial excavation. It had been used for fill probably when the land was leveled for the original cottage. The builder salvaged as much of the stone as he could. The mason then built the fireplace and the wall out front with it. We still have plenty of stone left — maybe for a wall up by the road one day. It is not only beautiful, but it adds such a sense of place. And, it was free!
The losses were generally small. A bathroom vanity arrived with a cracked marble top. One of the kitchen cabinets somehow ended up in Hilton Head, SC. Due to an ordering error, we had to scramble at the last minute for kitchen counters.
Through it all, my builder was diligent, honest, and flexible. He listened to my crazy ideas and then made them happen. The house he built for our family is not only beautiful, but strong and tight. It has already sheltered us from numerous storms and extreme weather.
The most stressful part of building the house was the cost. It felt like someone was always asking for money. Often lots of it. Ultimately, though, we were lucky — if we were to build now, it would probably be double the price.
Leaving Maryland
Ultimately, I realized that it was time to move forward.
At the same time as the construction was going on in Maine, I was clearing our Maryland home of 28 years of life and getting it ready to sell. It was a huge undertaking in and of itself and certainly added to the stress of the construction process.
But that is a long story for another day, if you are ever interested in hearing it.
In short, leaving our home in Maryland was probably the hardest thing I have ever done — physically and emotionally. I brought all my babies home to that house and launched them all into the world from it.
That home had been wonderful to raise our children in. They were grown and gone, though. Ultimately, I realized it was time to move forward.
The sunny yellow house might not be ours anymore, but the memories we made there always will be.
It is time now to make new memories.
In a new home.
Living the Dream
I made the leap and chased after a dream.
So, here I am now. Molly in Maine.
I left behind everything that was familiar and comfortable — our home of 28 years, a career, friends.
I made the leap and chased after a dream.
Was it easy? Certainly not always. There were times when I seriously questioned what we were doing here. Sometimes I still have those days.
But then I look out the windows at those same views of “harbor, shoreline, island, and ocean; bold rocks, jagged spruce, and soaring birds” that I saw on that first day standing in the field in January 2016. And I know I am home.
We built it. In just a few weeks my first grandchild is coming.
I am living my dream.
I hope this story encourages you to chase after your dream too!
Thank you for taking the time to read the story of our home!
Thank you for sharing your story. I love your style and your beautiful home. We moved to a log sided cabin in the mountains of Western North Carolina 10 years ago. We didn’t know anyone here. We too, left everything familiar. I retired from my job of over 20 years, sold the home we had lived in for 24 years, downsized from 2400 sq ft to 1250 sq ft. We love it! Have made a wonderful life here, friends, church family and the mountains nourish my soul.
What a process you went through, but the finished home is stunning.
Hi Suzanne! I am sure you, like me, questioned what you were doing at times. But this is definitely home now!
The detailed photos of your house construction are really interesting—especially the ones in which your dogs get to participate. I can really only visualize a house by seeing a floor plan, though. Would you mind including one in a future post?
I am glad you enjoyed the construction photos! It was fun for me to go through them too! I hadn’t done that since we completed construction!
Very interesting, tx for sharing. I too left MD for MAINE in 2017 – a lifelong dream. We bought our (1920) Island cottage in 2017 and immediately began renovating. It’s a small lot, on a small island, but is a delightfully wonderful home. And a constant work in progress.
Sounds delightful, indeed! There are many wonderful spots here in Maine!
Loved this series so much, it was so fun to walk down memory lane! So proud to have a mom who turned her dreams into a reality like this. Can’t wait to bring grandchild # 2 there this summer!
Hi Zo! Can’t wait for you and Poppy (and then Sam) to come in August! And isn’t it weird that our move to Maine was already 5 years ago! You were the one who was there for all of the move. Thank you for helping me get through it all!
I LOVE the story of chasing your dream, now living your dream. I especially applaud you for leaving behind 28 years of memories to move somewhere I’m assuming you knew no one. I always “thought” we would build after 41 years of a nomad life, but providence stepped in and I found a property, location, home, that ticked all the boxes. The extra bonus was a sweet guest house that came with it. I now know I could’ve never made all the decisions that go into a new build especially during the shutdown. You are one of those gifted people that can visualize and pull it off. Please do more stories on all the details of your home…. color choices, fixtures, etc. Also, the icing on the cake is your grandbaby’s first of many visits soon. How exciting!
Hi Julie! Yes, I will definitely do some more posts on various aspects of the house and how I made design decisions. It wasn’t our plan to build, but we did not find that property that ticked all the boxes. They are hard to find in this area. All the old houses need a lot of work!
What a journey!! Your instincts where right on – sometimes we just need to take that leap. 🙂
Hi Janet! I totally agree! I am so glad (and relieved) that my instincts were right, and that when I jumped I landed here!
I enjoyed reading this story of moving to Maine. You were very brave to go after your dream! Now you get to enjoy! You will also enjoy being a grandmother. It’s the best job ever!! I am now a great grandmother also.❤️
Hi Nancy! Thank you for reading my post! Really, it was the grandchildren I had in mind when I designed this house!
I totally enjoyed reading about your journey home to Maine. It will be a wonderful time when your first grandchild visits to start new memories at Gramma/s house on the coast. Well done and welcome home.
Hi Linda! I am so happy you enjoyed my post! I am so ready to make memories with the grandchildren here!
Molly this is a wonderful tale of courage and perseverance. I have had the joy of visiting Maine with just my parents and myself and it is one of the most memorable experiences of my life. If you keep diligent dreams do come true. Good for you, hats off!
Hi Shelley! Thank you for reading my post! I would say it was a combination of good fortune, some luck, faith, vision, and a lot of hard work!
Molly, I enjoyed reading about your dream. I loved it. We built a home before and no the pains n tribulations that go with it. Your home is truly a work of art, especially to hear about the stone n rock you found. It’s Beautiful. I thank you for sharing your story with me. Thanks again friend 💙💙
Hi Brenda! Thank you so much for reading my post! I am so happy you enjoyed it! For the most part the construction/design decisions came easily to me. I do remember, though, standing on the porch with the electrician towards the end of the build discussing the location of the recessed lights. I just looked at him and said “I can’t make any more decisions. I trust whatever you think is best.” Haha!
Thank you Molly for sharing the journey. So interesting and I know how much work a post like this is to create. Bravo!
You are so very lucky to be able to make a dream come true, and with a large happy family! Cheers.
Hi Gray! Thank you for reading my post. It was definitely a lot of work, but it was also fun to go through old pictures! And now I have pulled a bunch of them out of the depths of my phone and onto my computer! Family is everything to me and it has been an honor to create a place for us all to gather!
I love hearing your story about how you became Molly in Maine. I love Maine but have only been in the summer. What challenges you faced
and I am not sure I could leave my comfortable home and start over! I really enjoy your blog because it brings back Maine memories to me.
Hi Judy! Believe me, there were plenty of times when I wondered what the heck I was doing, haha! Summer is beautiful here, but so is autumn! I wouldn’t recommend coming here in the spring, though!
Now when I see your beautiful stone fireplace I will remember how the stones were unearthed on your property! That is special, indeed! I have gone through new construction a few times but now I live in a house over 100 years old.
Hi Jane! I love old homes, and there are many in our town. That just didn’t work out for us here. It was fun being able to customize the home for our needs and wants. And yes, the fireplace is so very special! I still have piles of rocks lying around the property!
Molly,
I enjoyed this post so much. Your dream was one shared by many and you are very reassuring in sharing the positive outcome.
Thanks!
Mary
Thank you so much for reading this post, Mary! It was a lot of work and a big leap of faith, but we were so fortunate to have this opportunity!
Molly,
Your home is beautiful and the story behind how you got there is incredible! As a federal employee for 20+ years, living in Alexandria making our house a home for our two young children, I can relate to a lot of this. I can’t wait for whatever else you share. I’ll be reading for sure! Happy Mother’s Day too!
Thank you,Chrystal! It sounds like we have shared a path! Happy Mother’s Day!
Such a beautiful post Molly loved seeing all the before photos. That fireplace is so amazing. Hope you had fun in Brimfield👍🏻
Hi Ann! I can’t wait to read your post tomorrow! Brimfield was so fun! It is a LOT, though! The fireplace is truly the heart of our home!
Yes, I’d love to hear details!
Okay! I will definitely do some post on how I chose things! It really all came together so naturally!
Absolutely gorgeous!
I love every inch of your home Molly!
Thank you so much for sharing your Journey!
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Hi Susan! Thank you so much for reading our story! I picked out every inch of my home, haha!
A good story, well told. We designed and my husband built our house in Kittery Point on Brave Boat Harbor. I loved the process. I recommend it to anyone, but patience better be your strong suit or the stress would prevail. We just kept it moving, but not picking calendar dates for deadlines. A lot of fun with a huge end product!
Your biggest result…..you did it! Congratulations. The fun part is that can always keep puttering with additional ideas.
Bravo!
Wow, Melissa, you and your husband really did it all! Bravo to you! And yes, always puttering!
Hi Molly, wow! I loved reading this!I didn’t know about your life before Molly in Maine and it’s amazing to discover it. Maine is beautiful and rustic and I could see how it would pull at your heartstrings. The home you have created in Maine is magical. That fireplace! That view! Those classic things that make your home feel it was always there. I’d love to hear more about your Maryland home and also more posts about design decisions in your home.
Thank you, Danielle! I love your beautiful old coastal home. I wanted this place to have a similar feel. I hope I achieved that! And yes, my life here is very different from my life in Maryland! Have a great weekend!
Molly … I love everything about your story and admire your courage to move forward with your dream. And now you’re coming up on six years of retirement and several years enjoyment of your amazing new home. I’m so excited for you to welcome your new grand-baby for the first of many magical visits that will become favorite part of her lifetime story. xo
Thank you, Juliet! Truthfully, I built this home with grandkids in mind! Can’t wait to share the Maine experience with all of them!
Hi Molly, I loved reading your story. I love your vision for the beautiful home that you built. As Dee and I travel the country we talk about the possibility of one day finding a place that we would like to make our new home. I’m quite certain if that happens, it will be somewhere in New England as that has been a dream of mine since I was a little girl. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
Cindy – cozymountaincottage and hathaway.we.go 🙂
Hi Cindy! Thank you for stopping by my blog and taking the time to say hi! Living here is certainly a dream come true for me! Happy travels!
your story is wonderful and so nice to hear even though i lived through it as someone who has come even before you built it! i am so happy that you have always made me welcome because you are living my dream. you have done everything so perfectly in both buildind and are the very best hostess always sharing the best of maine! thank you thank you! i love your dream! cant wait for another visit!
Aw, thanks, Amy! You know I always love to have you and Steve visit! Come any time!
Hi Molly! I have a Maine dream, too! It’s such a beautiful state. I spent yesterday going back through and reading all of your posts from the beginning. It was a wonderful way to spend the day, dreaming of what might be and taking notes for the future. I appreciate all the details you shared. I look forward to reading more. I’m writing this from my campsite on the California coast :).
Hi Julie! Wow, thank you for spending time on my blog! I think a coastal California campsite sounds pretty dreamy too!
Thank you for sharing your story. I stumbled across your exquisite home months ago. It wasn’t until reading this post that I realized how many similarities there are to my own story- I, too, am a federal employee living in Maryland with an affinity for New England. Your posts are a welcome opportunity to see the beauty of Maine through your beautifully-appointed windows!
Hi Stephanie! It sounds like we do have much in common! Maybe you will return to New England one day too!